Lube is For Pleasure, Not Just Problems!

A lot of us grew up thinking lubricant was something you only reach for when things felt dry or uncomfortable. If you were turned on, and everything seemed fine, why would you need it?

At Moments, we hear this kind of question all the time. 

And the truth is, lube is not a last-resort fix. It’s one of the simplest ways to make sex feel smoother, more comfortable, and genuinely more enjoyable; no matter what kind of sex you’re having or what stage of life you’re in.

Here, we’ll discuss why we think lube deserves a permanent spot in your bedside drawer. But first… 

 

What is Lubricant?

Lubricant, aka lube, is a specially formulated sexual wellness product designed to reduce friction during sex. It’s usually a gel or liquid that you apply to the skin, sex toys, or condoms, to make everything glide more easily.

Most lubes are either water-based or silicone-based. Water-based lubricant is the most popular because it feels natural, washes off easily, and is safe to use with condoms and most sex toys. Silicone lubricant on the other hand lasts longer and feels extra silky, but it shouldn’t be used with silicone sex toys.

Some people also like flavoured lube for oral play or just for a bit of extra fun! More on that later!

 

What Does Lube Do?

Lube reduces friction. That’s its main job, and it does it very well. Less friction means everything glides more easily, so you can move the way you actually want to without any tugging or discomfort. 

Even when you’re naturally turned on, your body doesn’t always produce enough lubrication for the kind of sex you want to have. 

Stress, hormones, medications, dehydration, or even the length of a session can all play a part. A good lube can then step in quietly and give you that extra slip so you can focus on pleasure instead of worrying about whether things feel okay.

It’s not about “needing help” though. It’s about upgrading your experience.

 

How to Use Lube

Using lube is simpler than you may think. 

• Put a small amount on your fingers and apply it wherever you want more of a glide (on yourself, your partner, or on a sex toy)
• Re-apply whenever things start to feel a little dry (you can’t really use “too much” lube)
• Keep the bottle of lube on-hand so it’s easy to grab without ruining the mood

The more normal it feels, the less you will think twice about grabbing it. 

 

Is Lube Safe?

Yes. A good quality lubricant is safe when used as directed. Look for body-safe ingredients, avoid anything with harsh fragrances or sugars if you are prone to irritation, and usually water-based lubes are the ultimate winner. Honestly? Lube is one of the easiest and safest ways to look after your sexual health, and have a fantastic ride along the way. 

 

Why Saliva is not the Best Option

A lot of people choose to “hawk tuah” and use their saliva as lube because it’s right there and it’s arguably the easiest option during play time. But it’s not nearly as good as a proper lube. Plus, it’s not really all that good for you… 

Saliva actually dries out very quickly, so any slip disappears fast and you can end up with more friction than you started with. 

That, plus saliva’s main job is to break food down in your mouth. These same enzymes can irritate the delicate tissues of the vagina, vulva, or anus. Over time, this irritation can lead to micro tears, increased sensitivity, or even a higher chance of infection. No fun!

The good news? There are much better, more pleasurable options. A good water-based lube stays slippery longer, feels nicer, and is actually designed to work with your body instead of against it.

 

The Benefits of Using Lube

Lube quietly upgrades every kind of sexual experience. It’s not about fixing a problem, it’s about giving yourself and your partner better sensations, and more freedom to enjoy the moment.

Here are five benefits of using lube:

1. Lube makes foreplay feel even better

Foreplay is where most of the best sensations happen, and a little lube can turn good foreplay into something magical. Fingers, mouths, and sex toys all move more smoothly, so every stroke and kiss feels silkier and more delicate. 

Also, you can take your time without things drying out or feeling sticky. That extra glide lets you explore different pressures and rhythms without any distractions.

2. Lube turns penetration into something you look forward to

Even when you are naturally turned on, a bit of extra glide can make penetration feel noticeably better. Lube removes that small moment of “Will this feel okay?” and lets you focus on the sensations instead.

Lube is especially helpful if you ever notice vaginal tightness or if you just want things to feel smoother and more effortless. Using lube doesn’t mean something is wrong with your body. It simply means you’re choosing comfort so the experience can feel as good as it possibly can.

3. Lube makes solo play more comfortable and creative

When you’re on your own, lube opens up a lot more possibilities. It makes fingers or sex toys glide beautifully, so you can try different speeds, pressures, and angles without any pulling or discomfort.

And actually, a lot of people find that they relax more and stay in the moment longer when they use lube. It tends to take the edge off and lets you focus on what feels great instead of working around dryness or friction.

4. Lube is brilliant for longer sessions and more playful sex

Sometimes you just want to take your time or try something new. Lube keeps everything comfortable for longer, so you can experiment, or simply stay connected without having to stop and re-wet.

It’s also really useful during perimenopause and menopause when natural lubrication can change. A good lubricant or vaginal moisturiser can make sex feel incredible again without any drama. A vaginal moisturiser is a sexual wellness product to relieve vaginal dryness by hydrating and restoring moisture to the delicate tissue of the vagina and vulva.

5. Lube makes anal play pleasurable and safer

An anal sex toy/anal play needs plenty of lubricant because that area doesn’t self-lubricate the way a vagina does. Using a good lube here is not optional: it’s what makes the experience comfortable, pleasurable, and safe. It reduces the risk of tearing and lets you move at a pace that feels right for you. Plus, if you’re a newbie to anal, we don’t want you to be scarred for life!

Lube When Things Feel Dry or Uncomfortable

Sometimes your body needs a little extra help, and that’s completely normal. 

Here are three reasons why lube may just be your new best friend during normal life changes and certain ailments:

1. Vaginal dryness and tightness

Vaginal dryness or tightness can happen at any age. A good water-based lubricant can reduce that pulling sensation and make penetration feel smoother and more pleasurable once again.

2. Perimenopause and menopause

During perimenopause and menopause, falling estrogen levels often mean less natural lubrication and sometimes, vaginal tightness. Many women find that a reliable lubricant or vaginal moisturiser can make a big difference, as it helps restore comfort during penetration.

3. Painful sex

If sex sometimes feels painful, lube is one of the easiest first steps. It reduces friction, giving your body time to relax. Many people notice that adding lube takes painful sex from “something to endure” to “something they look forward to”.

 

Playful Ideas with Lube

Lube is not just practical. And as we’ve mentioned, lubricant is a fun addition to any erotic adventure (with or without problems). So, why not be playful with it?

You could try warming your lube between your hands first so it feels nice and warm against your or your partner's skin. 

Or, you can experiment with warming and cooling lubes or condoms for temperature play! Warming lubes or condoms create a gentle heat that increases blood flow and sensitivity (making it more likely for you to orgasm!), while cooling lubes or condoms give a refreshing tingly sensation. 

You may be intrigued by our Dual Lubricated condoms. They have warming lube on the outside and cooling lube on the inside, creating a contrasting of temperature sensations for heighted bliss in a new way.

Some other playful ideas include drawing little patterns or cheeky messages on each other with slippery fingers, giving a slow full-body massage that may or may not turn into more, or using a bit of flavoured lube during oral sex for an extra sensory treat.

The point is: lube can be used to play. It gives you permission to be a bit silly, a bit curious, and a lot more relaxed.

Lubricants at Moments

Need a cheeky recommendation to get started? We have a water-based lube that’s silky without being sticky, feels natural on your skin, and works beautifully for everything: from quick sessions to slow, exploratory play. It’s pH balanced, gentle, and safe to use with our condoms and most sex toys.  

Whether you’re planning to use it for penetration, foreplay, or a bit of solo self-care, this lube was created to make things feel better: not because something is wrong, but because you deserve sex that feels great.

We also have our Moments Bubble Gum Flavoured Lubricant. It has that sweet, nostalgic bubble gum taste while still delivering the same smooth, long-lasting glide. PH-friendly, water-based, and safe to use with condoms.

With that, let us say: lube is not just for when something feels off. It’s for making good sex even better, for giving yourself and your partner one less thing to think about, and for turning ordinary moments into really enjoyable ones.

If you’ve never really given lube a proper go, or if you have only used it when things felt dry, try keeping a bottle handy next time. You might be surprised how much it changes the experience… in the best possible way. 

 

Written by Helena Lorimer